Thanks for talking about the weirdness of "core memories" - and I lump in its sibling, "making memories." There are so many things that I'm sure are great memories for my mom in our childhood, but when I see people talk about taking their kids to one of the Disney parks as making core memories, all I can think about is how my big takeaways from my 8-year-old Disney World trip were that birds kept pooping on my dad (I swear it happened 3-4 times), getting a bad sunburn, and generally being uncomfortable most of the time.
I liked the contrast with making core feelings, but was thinking there's only so much control over that, too. After my parents got divorced, my dad dove hard into planning activities for my brother and me, undoubtedly wanting to forge some positive ~core memories & feelings~ but what he mostly succeeded in doing was driving me crazy. My core feelings from that time mostly entail not feeling like my time and space and wants were respected - general resentment. Counterproductive!
I loved this! Big Red and also Double Mint (double your pleasure, double your fun).
I was surprised that our (by which I mean early Millenials/late Gen x) parents weren't discussed more in this pod. In my experience, nostalgia for the 60s is a defining feature of my interaction with my parents - my family used to watch the Wonder Years together every Wednesday night, and my brother and I were subject to long reminiscences about the freedom and fun of childhood at that time. I still think of the Wonder Years as an exhibit A for conversations about nostalgia. To the extent that I have a great nostalgia myself for this time I never experienced -- which at one point I learned has its own word: anemoia. I watch something like Sandlot or other shows set during that period and feel serious anemoia, which I attribute solidly to my upbringing :)
Appreciate the "Core Memory" discussion - I 1000% associate it with Inside Out. A movie that made me sob (like the ugly, wrenching cry) the first time I saw it in theatres.
My #1 nostalgia commercial is HAIRIGAMI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9PEw4mSOzqw
Thanks for talking about the weirdness of "core memories" - and I lump in its sibling, "making memories." There are so many things that I'm sure are great memories for my mom in our childhood, but when I see people talk about taking their kids to one of the Disney parks as making core memories, all I can think about is how my big takeaways from my 8-year-old Disney World trip were that birds kept pooping on my dad (I swear it happened 3-4 times), getting a bad sunburn, and generally being uncomfortable most of the time.
I liked the contrast with making core feelings, but was thinking there's only so much control over that, too. After my parents got divorced, my dad dove hard into planning activities for my brother and me, undoubtedly wanting to forge some positive ~core memories & feelings~ but what he mostly succeeded in doing was driving me crazy. My core feelings from that time mostly entail not feeling like my time and space and wants were respected - general resentment. Counterproductive!
I loved this! Big Red and also Double Mint (double your pleasure, double your fun).
I was surprised that our (by which I mean early Millenials/late Gen x) parents weren't discussed more in this pod. In my experience, nostalgia for the 60s is a defining feature of my interaction with my parents - my family used to watch the Wonder Years together every Wednesday night, and my brother and I were subject to long reminiscences about the freedom and fun of childhood at that time. I still think of the Wonder Years as an exhibit A for conversations about nostalgia. To the extent that I have a great nostalgia myself for this time I never experienced -- which at one point I learned has its own word: anemoia. I watch something like Sandlot or other shows set during that period and feel serious anemoia, which I attribute solidly to my upbringing :)
I was listening along and thinking about Soviet nostalgia (having once been a scholar of the Soviet Union), and then Svetlana Boym came up. I was like 🤯🫨🤩…!!
That Big Red commercial though!
Stuck in my head for DAYS after editing this
Appreciate the "Core Memory" discussion - I 1000% associate it with Inside Out. A movie that made me sob (like the ugly, wrenching cry) the first time I saw it in theatres.